Comments on: Does experience make us more sympathetic? http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/ A little bit of everything.... Fri, 05 Dec 2008 05:56:31 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Rim http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-41 Rim Thu, 21 Jun 2007 23:06:43 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-41 Hey Mrinal, I don't think Rimpi means anything. All I know is that its a name of a village in Sweden. :) Hope that helps. -Rim Hey Mrinal,

I don’t think Rimpi means anything. All I know is that its a name of a village in Sweden. :) Hope that helps.

-Rim

]]> By: mrinal mazumder http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-38 mrinal mazumder Wed, 20 Jun 2007 20:09:39 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-38 Hi Rimpi, I have a Indian friend, her name is Rimpi. But she does not know, what does Rimpi mean. Would u please help me? Regards Mrinal Hi Rimpi,
I have a Indian friend, her name is Rimpi. But she does not know, what does Rimpi mean. Would u please help me?
Regards
Mrinal

]]> By: Rim http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-18 Rim Mon, 02 Apr 2007 23:51:07 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-18 Hey Wikid, I do agree with you that we can never fully understand a situation if we have not personally experienced it. At the same time that should not stop us from helping someone. Just being there for them and listening to them can also help them a lot. Thanks for your reply...it is always good to know what others think. :) Hey Wikid,

I do agree with you that we can never fully understand a situation if we have not personally experienced it. At the same time that should not stop us from helping someone. Just being there for them and listening to them can also help them a lot.

Thanks for your reply…it is always good to know what others think. :)

]]> By: Wikid Sunny http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-17 Wikid Sunny Mon, 02 Apr 2007 21:49:13 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-17 ‘Is it necessary for us to have experienced something personally in order to help someone?’ NO...if you know about something such as mentioned in ur article, then you can go ahead and help. But, do you think a person who has experienced such a situation would want to help. Well not in all cases. That person might not want others to suffer as much OR that person might not want to even come close to the same topic again (therefore not helping). It is easy to say things, help people, and try to understand what they are feeling but 'TRY' is the key word. You can never understand unless u experience it. You hear ppl always saying "If I was in her shoes I would do this...." well guess what, you are NOT in her shoes and therefore you will never know what you would do in the same situation. Claim all u want, what u want! Thats how the human mind works. We watch movies, read things and start thinking that we know more and would do differently if given the same situation. But the truth is that when you are faced with a really strong situation, your mind works in a completely different way becasue now it actually truely concerns YOU. Also, if you ever get into such a situation, your mind would work much clearer on the subject (thereafter) compared to people who keep claiming they know whats right and wrong. The reason why I wrote all this is that it is an amazing thing to help others going through these situations and tehrefore you are doing a right thing. My point is that sure you are getting experience, but never dare say that after listening or dealing with so many people now you understand how it feels. Because you don't you only TRY to understand. Which IS the best you can do so good job! Btw nice article...I like it....and since I suck at writing, what I wrote mite be a bit confusing...hehe.. ‘Is it necessary for us to have experienced something personally in order to help someone?’
NO…if you know about something such as mentioned in ur article, then you can go ahead and help. But, do you think a person who has experienced such a situation would want to help. Well not in all cases. That person might not want others to suffer as much OR that person might not want to even come close to the same topic again (therefore not helping).

It is easy to say things, help people, and try to understand what they are feeling but ‘TRY’ is the key word. You can never understand unless u experience it. You hear ppl always saying “If I was in her shoes I would do this….” well guess what, you are NOT in her shoes and therefore you will never know what you would do in the same situation. Claim all u want, what u want!

Thats how the human mind works. We watch movies, read things and start thinking that we know more and would do differently if given the same situation. But the truth is that when you are faced with a really strong situation, your mind works in a completely different way becasue now it actually truely concerns YOU. Also, if you ever get into such a situation, your mind would work much clearer on the subject (thereafter) compared to people who keep claiming they know whats right and wrong.

The reason why I wrote all this is that it is an amazing thing to help others going through these situations and tehrefore you are doing a right thing. My point is that sure you are getting experience, but never dare say that after listening or dealing with so many people now you understand how it feels. Because you don’t you only TRY to understand. Which IS the best you can do so good job!

Btw nice article…I like it….and since I suck at writing, what I wrote mite be a bit confusing…hehe..

]]> By: Rim http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-15 Rim Fri, 16 Feb 2007 06:22:16 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-15 Thanks! :-) Thanks! :-)

]]> By: q8 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-14 q8 Tue, 13 Feb 2007 09:28:56 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-14 hi rimpi' i am very proud of u...bravo hi rimpi’
i am very proud of u…bravo

]]> By: Rim http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-13 Rim Tue, 13 Feb 2007 07:01:49 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-13 Hey rlao, I completely agree. As they say with hard work (and a dash of luck) you can achieve anything. :-) Hey rlao,

I completely agree. As they say with hard work (and a dash of luck) you can achieve anything. :-)

]]> By: rlao http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-11 rlao Tue, 13 Feb 2007 03:11:46 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-11 For everything you do, there are always naysayers. For example, if one has not played colligiate sports or professional sports, does that mean one cannot be a good coach at that level. Yes and No. It still depends on that person. That person may need to work harder to earn respect where as a reputable player may get it by default. If you put your mind to it, you can do it. For everything you do, there are always naysayers. For example, if one has not played colligiate sports or professional sports, does that mean one cannot be a good coach at that level. Yes and No. It still depends on that person. That person may need to work harder to earn respect where as a reputable player may get it by default. If you put your mind to it, you can do it.

]]> By: Rim http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-9 Rim Mon, 12 Feb 2007 09:04:19 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-9 Hey Prakriti... Thats another good way to look at it. I am glad to see positive views after posting this. :-) Rim Hey Prakriti…

Thats another good way to look at it. I am glad to see positive views after posting this. :-)

Rim

]]> By: Prakriti Katariya http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-8 Prakriti Katariya Mon, 12 Feb 2007 01:31:34 +0000 http://rimpithakar.wordpress.com/2007/02/06/selflessless/#comment-8 Hey Rimpi, I believe that there is another way to look at predicatments like DV...If you have personally not gone through such experience or if you have not closely watched someone in such plight, then you are more likely to be an effectiv counsellor because you do not have any bias or prejuidice. Every DV case is different. A person who has gone through such experience would probably view others situations from his/her own encounter, and therevy would weigh the options accordingly. Whereas a fresh and unbiased perspective might prove to be more practical and effective.Just an opinion........but hey what you are doing is commendable...BRAVO. Hey Rimpi, I believe that there is another way to look at predicatments like DV…If you have personally not gone through such experience or if you have not closely watched someone in such plight, then you are more likely to be an effectiv counsellor because you do not have any bias or prejuidice. Every DV case is different. A person who has gone through such experience would probably view others situations from his/her own encounter, and therevy would weigh the options accordingly. Whereas a fresh and unbiased perspective might prove to be more practical and effective.Just an opinion……..but hey what you are doing is commendable…BRAVO.

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